Muscle straight guy gets message to prove he is gay
Irecentlywrotea blog post about the music video for singer-songwriter Steve Grand's song "All-American Boy," in which a gay dude falls in cherish with a direct man and they share a fast kiss. In that post I addressed why gay men might be attracted to straight men, but that interrogate raises another: Why might a linear man be romantically or sexually attracted to other men? Why did the straight guy in the video touch the gay guy back, after all?
The following scenario happens many times: A man comes into my office, referred by his possess therapist and clutching coming-out literature that the therapist has given him. He explains that his therapist has tried, unsuccessfully, to assist him come out as gay or bisexual, but even though he's had sex with other men or gone to gay porn websites, he insists that he isn't gay. He says that he isn't homophobic either; if it turns out that he is indeed gay or bisexual, he'll consent it and shift on with his life, but the label just doesn't feel right to him.
During the last three decades, in reaction to prejudiced and destructive anti-gay attitudes, we've seen the pendulum swing so far in the other route that it's now become almost a thera
I recently finished reading Dr. Robert Garfield’s terrific modern book, Breaking the Male Code: Unlocking the Influence of Friendship, and last week participated in a joint interview with him by Dr. Dan Gottlieb on WHYY (National Universal Radio) in Philadelphia. This all got me thinking about my own friendships and those of my gay male clients. The bonds between gay men and straight women hold been written about and featured in popular media (i.e. Sex in the City, Will and Grace), though a lot less has been said about how gay and unbent men recognize and negotiate the distinct challenges, complications, and rewards of their friendships.
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According to Garfield, among the many obstacles to male-male platonic love , fear of homosexuality looms large. Straight men fret that if they become too close, others will see them as gay; which in their minds means feminine (horrors!), puny, and perverted. Perhaps even scarier is that their emotional connections will somehow morph into sexual attraction. Interestingly, in the U.S., before there was such a thing as a gay identity, some linear men would, with small shame, engage in sexual contact with other men (usually allow
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March 02, 2017
The Epidemic of
Gay LonelinessBy Michael Hobbes
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“I used to get so elated when the meth was all gone.”
This is my friend Jeremy.
“When you possess it,” he says, “you have to keep using it. When it’s gone, it’s like, ‘Oh great, I can go endorse to my life now.’ I would stay up all weekend and depart to these sex parties and then feel fancy shit until Wednesday. About two years ago I switched to cocaine because I could work the next day.”
Jeremy is telling me this from a hospital bed, six stories above Seattle. He won’t tell me the identical circumstances of the overdose, only that a stranger called an ambulance and he woke up here.
Jeremy is not the comrade I was expecting to have this conversation with. Until a few weeks ago, I had no idea he used anything heavier than martinis. He is trim, intelligent, gluten-free, the kind of guy who wears a labor shirt no matter what day of the week it is. The first time we met, three years ago, he asked me if I knew a good place to do CrossFit. Today, when I ask him how the hospital’s been so far, the first thing he says is that there’s no Wi-F
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Last October, same-sex attracted magazine Out ran a spotlight on Minnesota Vikings punter Chris Kluwe, who had recently written a scathing letter to politician Emmett Burns criticizing him for his anti-gay platform. According to Out, Kluwe’s letter was published on the popular sports website Deadspin and has since gone viral, sparking tremendous controversy and debate in the worlds of sports and politics, as adv as in general news outlets. Kluwe’s advocacy of gay rights was clearly unusual, otherwise it would not have garnered the public attention that it did. A gesture of support for gay rights is not itself newsworthy, at least not in this day and age; what made this one unusual was the proof that it came from an NFL athlete. The NFL has traditionally not been particularly hospitable to the gay rights movement, possibly because professional sports leagues have always been seen to be bastions of heterosexual masculinity. As a straight man, I’ve noticed that my fellow straight men seem to be an underrepresented demographic in the American political arena for gay rights. Even more underrepresented are pro athletes, who are culturally perceived to be in th