As a christian how do i love my gay mother
“You want to shove those words assist in and insert the lid on. But you can’t. Your child is gay. This goes against everything you’ve been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong.”
When you become a parent, you grasp to expect the unexpected. But for many Christian parents, nothing can get ready them to notice that their beloved child is same-sex attracted. This is the child you own cradled, spoon fed mashed bananas, and dreamed a pretty future for. How could this be? What will the church say? What will your friends say? What does the future hold? You can’t even get your brain around this.
If you are a Christian parent, family member or friend to whom your loved one has approach out as male lover or lesbian, then this is for you.
I invite you to sit down, relax, maybe obtain a cup of tea, and soak in what I’m about to narrate you. My optimism is to instruction you as we walk for a bit through this maze of confusion, to help you find your way to wholeness. In many Christian circles, this is not good news, and you may initiate to spiral into reflection and self-searching. We’ll get to that. But at the bottom of it all, this is not about you. Most parents’ first mistake is to mak
A Letter from a Christian Social Worker Who Is the Mother of a Gay Son & Tracking Jesus’ Example for Hard Conversations
Editor’s Note: This month NACSW is pairing a couple of blog posts showing the voices of two Christians in social labor on the intersection of LGBTQ issues and Christian faith. Our hope is that posting these two differing perspectives together will serve to broaden and deepen the conversation between Christians in social function on important issues that are relevant to our understanding of both our faith and our social work practice.
Post #1: A Letter from a Christian Social Worker Who Is the Mother of a Gay Son
I’m calling on the Christian Social Operate Community to lead way on how to manage the LGBTQ population. As followers of Jesus and advocates of social justice, it is up to us to set the standard for how Christians treat diverse, marginalized people. In doing this, we reflect the love and teachings of Jesus Christ. For many of us, this is why we went into social labor practice in the first place. Christians needs our example and our leaders on this important issue.
I am sharing my story to help spark social change in this are
A Gay Son's Tribute to His Mom
My mom was born in China and didn't recognize the Lord. She came to America for graduate academy, but instead married my father against her parents' wishes. Because of her strained relationship with her parents, she longed to produce a new family with my father where she could belong and be loved. With firm work and persistence, my mother helped my father get two doctoral degrees and establish a successful dental practice.
On the outside, they were living the "American Dream." They seemed to have it all: a new visualize home in the suburbs of Chicago, two luxury cars, and two sons in dental college. According to the ways of the world, my mother should have been happy. But she was completely miserable. I knew this because even when I was a child and my parents argued—which was often—I was the shoulder on which my mother would cry. They had already begun the paperwork for a divorce when I decided to produce a public declaration.
On May 17, 1993, I came home after my first year at the University of Louisville School of Dentistry and announced to my parents: "I am gay." This devastated my mom. News of my death woul
“Mom, Dad… I’m Gay.” A Christian Parent’s Response
Rachel Held Evans concludes her blog post If my son or daughter were gay with this paragraph:
If God blesses Dan and me with a infant who is gay, I would want that youngster to know without a doubt that he or she is loved unconditionally. I would want her to know nothing could separate her from the love of God in Christ. I would need her to know that she isn’t broken, she isn’t an embarrassment, she isn’t a disappointment. May I be part of creating a world in which I will not have to protect her from the bullies.
I believe Rachel’s motivation is to create a more welcoming and loving environment in the church for those who identify themselves as homosexuals, or who struggle with homosexual yearn for. I admire and assent with her motive, and must say that I’ve learned from her in this area of organism much more careful in how I speak and write about homosexuality.
However, I would challenge Rachel in two areas.
First, she doesn’t communicate any concern about the sinfulness of homosexual desires nor the immorality of lesbian actions. She seems to convey that homosexual desires are
How should Christian parents respond if one of their children comes out as gay?
Answer
If a child reveals his or her homosexuality, the first thing for Christian parents to perform is let their infant know that, no matter what, love and grace will win the evening. Mom and dad’s like will continue, regardless. First John 4:8 says, “The one who does not love does not realize God, for God is love.” There is nothing to be gained by callousness, denial, or denunciation. Rather, “God’s kindness is intended to lead [a person] to repentance” (Romans 2:4).
Our children (like ourselves) have heart issues. We’re not trying to insert good fruit on worst trees; we are passionately praying for our wayward children that God would heal the roots of the tree—that He might remove their heart of stone and replace it with a heart of flesh (see Ezekiel 36:26).
Parents should also encourage a child who has “come out” not to characterize himself as a “homosexual.” It’s important to request questions: Are you in a relationship? Is the relationship sexual or platonic? Have you acted out your feelings of lgbtq+ attraction, or are they just thoughts you have? Parents can come alongside a struggling child and help him